How to Overcome Fear of Rejection

The real obstacle when approaching a woman is the fear, the fear of rejection. Even when you imagine success, you get slight glimpses of getting rejected also. Actually, most men do not approach women fearing rejection, and thus, lose 100 per cent chance of getting accepted. 

Take it like this- When you had not asked the girl out, you didn�t have her in your life. When you ask her out and she rejects, you still don�t have her. So you haven�t lost. In fact you have gained, you have gained some experience. These little things add to your experience.

In my article �What Makes Women Reject Men�, I have mentioned how women do not always reject men. They rarely do that. Read it to know more. So when you think you have been rejected, go back to that article and read what is being said.

Next formula to overcome your fear of rejection is to visualize the positive scenes, of how you will approach and how happily the woman will accept you. Make positive pictures in your mind. This helps a lot because it increases your confidence.

Men who are confident in their approach are more likely to win women. So you need to learn to be confident with women. For that you also need to gain some experience in approaching women. The easiest way is to observe other men approaching women and the subsequent reaction of women.

Go to a busy pub and observe how men use pick up lines on girls or how they approach the girl in bar and how women react to he entire thing. This will help you in learning what works on women and what doesn�t. For example, you will learn how cheap pick up lines never work with women.

You will also learn that most women do not give those bad reactions we always dream about. Even if the woman isn't interested, nothing bad happens. It is only when the man goes to heights and passes a crude sexual remark that a woman responds negatively. So you know what can make a genuine woman really angry.

Another thing that can be done to gain confidence with women or to become experienced in the art of flirting and asking out girls is to flirt with sales girls you see in malls or high end shops. Every high end store hires good looking females. You can start a small conversation with them. They usually do not abuse or respond negatively. Make eye contact with them and flirt a little. Joke with them and see their reaction. You will know what works best on women.

Few ways of flirting with the sales girl are- Ask her to suggest you a perfume and spray it on your shirt. Now ask her to smell you and tell if it suits your personality.

Go to a mobile shop and while going through different mobiles, ask the sales girl for her handset. Smile and ask if you can have her number. She will give you some weird expressions; you can then say �I was just joking.�

Just like men don�t want to get hurt by getting rejected, many women also avoid saying anything to you because they don�t want to hurt you. They would make excuses like �I have a boyfriend� or �I am married�.

You need to make a woman attracted towards you. Just because she starts responding to your conversation doesn�t mean she is getting attracted towards you. You need to express yourself, show your best side, and joke with her so that she finds you interesting.

So you now know how to overcome your fear of rejection and feel confident when approaching women.