Some people believe that relationships shouldn�t need �work�. Others appreciate that there can be difficult patches that require some delicate navigation. Sometimes outside circumstances can act to pull you and your spouse together, but often things can happen that propel you in opposite directions unless you work to prevent this effect.
Unfortunately, it is often the case that a couple does not realize at the time that they are drifting apart. It is only once they feel that they are living almost separate or parallel lives that they come to realize what has happened to their relationship. Then they find themselves asking, �Where did the love go?� or �what happened to us?�
If this has happened to you, then please be assured that you are not alone. Nor does it mean that you are forever stuck in a �loveless� relationship. It just takes a little bit of attention and focus to get your relationship back on track. Needles to say, the most important and vital starting point is that both parties should wish to �get back that loving feeling�.
Where there is a will there is a way. This may sound like a clich, but it is a very true fact of life. If you want something badly enough you will usually find a way in which to make it happen. In the case of a relationship between two parties, you need to both want it to work.
The most important thing is to get back into the frame of mind that you were in when you were first together and madly in love. This should be easy to do. Those were good times, happy times and held a high intensity of emotional impact. This means that they will be deeply etched in your subconscious mind.
The more emotional attachment you have to a situation, event or circumstance the more deeply it is recorded within your mind. This is why I say that these �falling in love� memories should be easy to recall.
When was the last time you sat down and intentionally reminisced (either alone or with your partner) over those times? When was the last time you pulled out your photographs from those times and smiled as you flicked through them? When was the last time you deliberately set up a �date night� with your spouse?
If you want to have a loving relationship, then you need to set your minds upon doing things together that are loving, and designed to regenerate the love in your relationship. It is also important to focus upon the things that you love in your partner instead of the things that you might find irritating.
This may sound very simple and in reality it is pretty obvious and straightforward. Sadly, though, few couples really focus upon doing these things and are then disappointed by the way in which their relationship drifts.
Hypnosis can also be very helpful when you want to relive the emotions that you have felt in the fast. With hypnosis you have access to your subconscious mind, which is the part of your mind where memories and their attached emotions are stored. You can with hypnosis deliberately recall those loving emotions and bring them into the forefront of your mind once more.
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