Humans are social animals and we cannot thrive, survive without healthy relationships. When we came to this world we already had relationships with our mother and father. It expanded from brothers and sisters, high school friends and sweethearts, co-workers, to spouse and children of our own.
Since relationships encircle our lives, we should be willing to put efforts in order to maintain them. The article will detail you on how to bring value in your relationships and the tips are as follows.
1. Acknowledge the opinions, feelings, and needs of others
It is easier to become selfish and focus on things that we want for ourselves and in this process,we tend to ignore the feelings and point of views of our loved ones. Often hurt them to get our way. So if you wish to have long lasting friendships and relationships, you should be more considerate towards them.
Respect their opinions, even if they are wrong. Hearing others out will forge bonds so strong that no storm can undo it.2. Be more open to suggestions and compromises
To reach an objective that favors everyone and is acceptable to everyone around you calls for welcoming their suggestions and feedback on the matter at hand. Don�t play dictator rather facilitate democracy within your circle such when planning for a family dinner or splitting tasks among your colleagues.
Compromises are at the helm of great and successful relationships. So if you aren�t willing to compromise, you shouldn�t be in a relation in the first place. By compromise,it does not mean that you sacrifice what is important to you, rather it means to accommodate someone else�s preference on your time.
3. Get a grip on your emotions through regular practice
Avoid discussion from escalating into arguments and to be able to handle the emotional outbursts of individuals, you should be able to maintain a cool and calm head or it will be chaos. Remember, arguments are temporary, but relationships lasta lifetime. So, under such cases, it is advisable to suppress your emotions � no matter how angry or pissed off you feel in the heat of the moment.
One way to achieve this state of level-headedness is by practicing yoga and mindfulness techniques such as meditation or self-hypnosis. These have both health benefits physically as well as nourishes the mental health. You can go for a run if you badly want to vent out those frustrations. It is bound to help but, generally, try not to argue (unless of course, something unfair or out of the line occurs, you will have to speak up to clarify your position).
4. Give 100% of your attention to the job
During your work hours always give your best. Do not seek shortcuts as there is none in total honesty, only scapegoats. So when you are doing your work diligently the relationship between you and your boss and your co-workers will not only remain good but if will also facilitate stress-free environment overall for you.
In your free time, you will be less burdened and will spend time with friends and family outside your workplace with renewed energy levels.
5. Learn people�s emotional triggers and avoid setting them off
There are all kinds of people in this world. It is similar to the fears and insecurities that you possess,others pack their own set of fears and insecurities. Some topics or words are emotional triggers for people. The word or topic may just be nothing but to them,it can carry a negative connotation. Therefore, when you realize it, avoid bringing such subjects up in conversations to prevent hitting them emotionally.
Your act of kindness goes a long way and the other person will surely appreciate and consequently, will quarrel with you rarely.
6. Spend more of your free time out with people instead of locked up at home
Spending quality time is key and to building a healthy and strong relationship with friends, family members, and partner or even colleagues requires acquaintance of deeper level which is possible only by spending more time with them. As human beings,we all are wired differently and have our own psychologies.
Nor can truly claim to know a person unless he has spent some quality time with him/her because that enables an individual to open up such as while dining out together (when our mental guards are down). It�s during enjoying a meal and relaxing, people tend to pour their hearts out and share their problems. This way issues can get sorted.
7. Work on overcoming your insecurities
In order to strengthen relationships with people, you need to overcome your insecurities. Because a fruitful discussion will never ensue if you have skeletons in the closet weighing you down at every step of your life. You will be busy looking for that perfect answer while the other person is speaking that you will often never pay attention or listen to what�s being said or asked of you in actual.
So try working on those insecurities and take one day at a time by making small changes to your lifestyle. It may be you have complexes with regards to your appearance or financial standing. Make peace with them and move on. It will positively influence your interactions with others and you�d be less nervous.
In conclusion
In addition to above tips, other essentials include saying sorry more often and learning to forgive. I know as human beings these are the two hardest things to do but the thing � it is a trait exhibited by human only and that cannot get any further from the truth. Thus, we have to learn to do it (if not for us) for the sake of improving our relations with the people that matter.Life is a one-time gig and to spend it by holding grudges against each other and hurling insults and blames will do us no good. It is imperative that we employ these tips to ensure healthier relationships. What do you think? Let us know in the comments section below.
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Joe Pirest is a social scientist by profession and has earned his degree from a reputable institute. He can be contacted for dissertation help and you can follow him for updates on Twitter, Facebook, and Google+ mediums..
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